Showing posts with label good. Show all posts
Showing posts with label good. Show all posts

Thursday, May 22, 2008

When You Can Do Better By Yourself...

I just want to give Star Jones, a lifetime member of WWC (Women With Curves) some props.
This chile has had more face time in front of the camera after cutting off the dead weight (Al, not the fat) than when they were truly stuntin' and frontin'.
She's had a busy 12 mos:
  • She cracks Barbra Wawa's face when she exited the View.

  • Her court show was cancelled.

  • She checks Barbra Wawa again for Barbra attempting to use her disagreement with Star, and her affair with a black politician a kazillion years ago in order to pimp her book.

  • And cuts loose that bloodsucker of a husband.

Tell me....doesn't Star look BETTER eventhough she's been through some drama in the past 9 mos??
Judge for yourself:
Star Jones + Denise Rich

Star Jones

I AIN'T MAD AT U STAR!

I wonder how much her bag o' hair costs???

Star Jones
More pics here

Here's Star moderating cable's "Bad Girls' Reunion" ...keep hope alive Star, as you continue to seek other means of employment!


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Tuesday, April 01, 2008

Thank You...

To Those Who Prayed For Me,
To Those Who Have Called Me
(I'll be returning your call-school project is due!)
THANK YOU!!

To those whose names weren't listed but PRAYED FOR ME ANYWAY...all I can say is WOW-I am truly humbled and honored by your sacrifices. I was rendered speechless upon reading the comments from those who weren't listed. I'm still teary-eyed at God's goodness and for using u to pray for me! smh

I have heard from the Lord and the way I asked the prayer to be answered it was.

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I have been blessed to have an awesome man of God in my life!
First I must say that God is good!
My needs (from man of God) that will allow me to prosper in a relationship- freedom to express myself-no matter how unorthodox, or quirky; a listening ear, patience, embracing of my past, secure in himself -have been met.
And note to Dejanae**
HE DOES BALLROOM DANCE!
That's where we initially met and connected! lol

Upon listening to the hurts I've endured in the church, Jay (his name), promptly prayed for me. He did not judge me-nor did he tell me that I shouldn't forsake the assembly of the brethren (I already know that). He told me my feelings were valid, explained that these issues in the church are historical-and then he PRAYED.
He's intelligent-he has several economic theories that he's created.
And he can BALLROOM DANCE! LOL

Upon our initial serious conversation I told him I love classical music, and I would love to go to a concert and listen to Tchaikovsky.

Well, I checked my email yesterday and he forwarded to me a confirmation of two tickets to hear violinist Hilary Hahn play with Detroit Symphony Orchestra...as they play TCHAIKOVSKY!
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And the concert is the day before my birthday!
I also received the most beautiful love letter from him.
*sighhhhhhhh*

Why did I ask for prayer??

  • I asked for prayer because I could not trust hearing from God correctly, myself. And James 1:5 says "But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all generously and without reproach, and it will be given to him."

  • I was paralyzed by fear in the area of commitment.
  • I had an aversion to the thought of marriage.
  • I needed confirmation.
  • Did not want to waste his or my time.
  • Before I gave Jay an answer (yay or nay), it had to be the answer God gave me, not one given to myself from myself.
  • I did what Psalms 1:1 advised:
1 How blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked, Nor stand in the path of sinners, Nor sit in the seat of scoffers!
2 But his delight is in the law of the LORD, And in His law he meditates day and night.
3 He will be like a tree firmly planted by streams of water, Which yields its fruit in its season And its leaf does not wither; And in whatever he does, he prospers.
4 The wicked are not so, But they are like chaff which the wind drives away.
5 Therefore the wicked will not stand in the judgment, Nor sinners in the assembly of the righteous.
6 For the LORD knows the way of the righteous, But the way of the wicked will perish.

Because I don't play with the things of God, it was important that I seek those who communicate with God to pray on my behalf, in addition I sought the counsel of mature Christians (mature Christians who live by the word of God EVERYDAY).
It has been confirmed, Jay, was sent from God to me.

While I am scared...I no longer walk in fear.
I've never trusted a man
(due to the attached strings and bullcrap that would land me in jail/prison)...but I trust Jay.
I trusted God to an extent with my life, and He is using Jay to show me how to put ALL of my trust in Him-for my steps are ordered by Him.

I'll elaborate later, but I just wanted to thank you all for taking time out of your biz lives to look out for a sista! U have NO IDEA how I felt knowing people, whom faces I've never seen b4-pics do no justice, were praying for me. I'm truly amazed at the goodness of God.

And I promise to hold up the words I spoke at Black Male Appreciation in regards to My Black Man.

Ok y'all I'm tired.
After school, it be BAU (biz as usual) and the blogging will return.
THANK YOU!!
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My thoughts and prayers are with the Levert Family, as they mourn the death of their 2nd son Sean, less than one year after the passing of their older son, r&b singer Gerald.









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Sunday, November 18, 2007

Trials & Tribulations Will Come...


(Sometimes I must be reminded, IT'S NOT ABOUT ME!)

Romans 8:28-39 (New King James Version)

28 And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose. 29 For whom He foreknew, He also predestined to be conformed to the image of His Son, that He might be the firstborn among many brethren. 3oMoreover whom He predestined, these He also called; whom He called, these He also justified; and whom He justified, these He also glorified.
God’s Everlasting Love
31 What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us? 32 He who did not spare His own Son, but delivered Him up for us all, how shall He not with Him also freely give us all things? 33 Who shall bring a charge against God’s elect? It is God who justifies. 34 Who is he who condemns? It is Christ who died, and furthermore is also risen, who is even at the right hand of God, who also makes intercession for us. 35 Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? 36 As it is written:

“ For Your sake we are killed all day long;
We are accounted as sheep for the slaughter.”[a]

37 Yet in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us. 38 For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, 39 nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Remember This???





LOOK AT 'EM NOW!

Recently, I presented Serena with Y.B.R's first annual Spirit of Perseverance
Award. For those who are not aware of what the Spirit of Perseverance award:

SmileyCentral.com
... presented to those who knew they looked a hot mess, and attempted to "fix it." This included morphing into something that only a cat would drag in, only a mother could love, or a blind person could justify. Because of their strong independent nature, our Spirit of Perseverance Award recipients refused the help of a stylist, and blew THOUSANDS of dollars buying several (unflattering) hairstyles, accessories, outfits, shoes, lotion w/out lanolin or shea butter. Not one to give up easily these recipients knew they were almost to their promised land and therefore continued to persevere, adapt, do it and stick-to-it, until heaven shined upon them and they were FINALLY were able to go out in public and not be talked about in tabloids, blogs, friends, family, co-stars, sponsors, fellow-athletes, children, Simon Cowell, etc. This award is given when consistency exists. Because everyone can have a "good day."

The "powers that be" at Y.B.R. (me) have decided to present this award on a need to basis and not yearly.
Having said that..I believe Serena was sooo honored by the award bestowed upon her, that she jumped on her sidekick and told Venus.
Venus, not one to be outdone by babysis, stepped up her game-and it is on point.
Well..I received an "anonymous" text from someone who advised me to keep my eye on Venus.
Intrigued, I did just that.
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Utilizing my checklist-
Hair:check
Ensemble:check
Lotioned appendages: check
Make up: check
Smile: check
Kind Words (esp when not in the mood to be kind): check check
Underwear not visible: check
Paparazzi feet not ran over: check
Not making a fool of self, or community (drunk, high, feuds): negative
reproachful videos (released sex tapes): negative
Length of Observation: 21 days
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At the conclusion of my observation of Venus, it was apparent this chile was just as deserving of the Spirit of Perseverance Award.

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So, with no further ado, for the first time in Y.B.R's 2-month history
The Spirit of Perseverance Award is being given to two people simultaneously-and their sisters!!
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CONGRATULATIONS, VENUS &SERENA-YOU'VE COME A LONG WAY, BABIES!!

Somebody tell Golden Brooks, i'm still hopeful that she'll be a recipient soon and very soon!


Tuesday, October 23, 2007

If You Don't Stand For Something, You'll Fall For Anything

SACRAMENTO TV STATION APOLOGIZES TO TYLER PERRY: Flood of angry e-mails over Janet interview causes havoc.
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*Never underestimate the power of Tyler Perry's e-mail nation.
Last week, the filmmaker vented his frustration last week with an interviewer at a Sacramento TV station who kept trying to ask Janet Jackson about her boob flash at the 2004 Super Bowl instead of questions about their new film, "Why Did I Get Married?"

In his latest letter to fans, Perry states: "After you all saw that interview that Janet and I did; you started an email campaign that ended in this man going on air and giving an apology. He got so many emails that it crashed the computer system at the TV station. The other employees couldn't get emails from what I understand."

The original interview with Sacramento's CW31 reporter Mark S. Allen can be seen here.

Allen's subsequent apology can be viewed below:






The stroke of the pen, the click of a mouse, a word from our mouths represents one thing: POWER. We have the power to change lives, move mountains, make a difference.
We're doin it with Jena 6, we did it with Tyler Perry, now let's effect change in ou own lives, and in the lives' of those around us!


Monday, October 22, 2007

*It's M.M. Monday!* Ending Monday, on a high note- no pun intended!



Jesus has taken the wheel-and I hope He NEVER gives it back!

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Mama Whitney was a surprise guest at the Swarovski Fashion Rocks London... ( on Oct 18th).

She made her first visit to London in 10 years to sing a farewell song to Valentino. Prince V says he’s not making anymore Ready to Wear clothing.
Mama is looking fabulous too.
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I have to give props where props is due.
first and foresmost-I must give it to my heavenly Father.
I KNOW He covered, dunked, submerged, held Whitney, under the blood of his Son, Christ Jesus!
It is a miracle that chile, is alive-and everyone knows it!!
It was touch and go for years, and i thought she was going to be in the same position as Britney S. No kids, hot mess (ok she was a hot mess), but she didn't lose her daughter! And it looks like Bobbi Kristina isn't being fast anymore, on myspace. Now B.K. is looking nice, and not too grown.
God is good!
Keep up the good work, Whitney, we know you have a testimony!
Ivent

Friday, October 19, 2007

**IMPORTANT** Minorities...What You Need to Know About Predatory Lenders


Protect Yourself Against Predatory Lending..."The Equity Killer"
A Key To Wealth Building


Predatory Lending is the equity killer. Consumers can lose equity in their homes by being placed in higher rates than they qualify for, by paying junk fees that are financed in the loan, by being placed in bad loan programs, etc. Predatory Lending, simply stated, is the practice of unfair lending. Predatory Lending victimizes hundreds of thousands of families every year. For the past 3 years Fair Community Lending Services has worked to protect consumers against predatory lending through education, access and accountability.

So what is Equity?

Equity is your ownership in the property you own also known as your asset position. A mortgage is your liability. So as shown in Example 1, if your home is worth $300,000 and you owe $200,000 to the bank, the equity remaining in your home is $100,000. Your equity is available for you to turn to cash by either selling your home or refinancing your home.

Example 1:
Value of Home: $300,000
Liability/Amount owed to Bank: $200,000
Equity = Value of Home – Amount owed/Liability: $100,000

If you decide to sell your home you will have to pay off the amount owed to the bank and any remaining money would come to you after you pay the fees to sell your home.

You can also gain access to your equity by refinancing your home. Refinancing your home means you work with a bank or broker to take out a new loan on your home. The existing lender would have to be paid off through the refinance, and you receive a new rate and new program. You will also pay loan fees to the bank or broker to establish the new loan.

How do you gain equity and how does Predatory Lending affect that equity?

Equity is gained two different ways. You gain equity by paying down your loan and through market appreciation. Appreciation happens when the price or value of your home go up. Please see an example of appreciation in Example 2.

Example 2:
You purchase your home in January 2006 for $400,000. After 5 years the value of your home goes up to $600,000. You owe the bank $300,000 so the equity remaining in your home is $300,000.

Equity is also gained through paying principal on the loan. So, if you take out a mortgage that requires you to pay the fully amortized payment, you will pay principal and interest. The principal portion of the payment pays down the loan and the interest is the cost of the loan. As shown in Example 3, the higher your rate the more interest you pay and the longer it takes you to pay down the loan on your home.

Example 3:

Loan Amount: $300,000 Loan Amount: $300,000
Interest Rate: 7% Interest Rate: 9%
Total Payment: $1,995.91 Total Payment: $2,413.87
Total principal paid after 1-year: $3,047.47 Total principal paid after 1-year: $2,049.61
Total interest paid after 1- year: $20,903.45 Total Interest paid after 1-year: 26,916.83


Example 3 shows you that the higher your rate, the longer it can take to pay down your loan and gain equity. You will pay over $6,000 more in interest every year at the higher interest rate loan.

Your first home is the key to your financial security and based on your interest rate, loan program and fees charged for the loan, you can position yourself to maximize on the growth of your equity.

Predatory Lending Facts

9 billion dollars is lost each year to Predatory Lending and minority families, the senior community and single moms are the #1 victims.

In 2005 national banks charged minority families an average of 2-3% more on their home loans than white consumers. On a 300,000 loan 2-3% higher means a payment of $ 500-$700 more each month. That is a loss of over $6,000 in equity each year.

Affluent African Americans have 4 times the chance of being victims of Predatory Lending than low-income white families.

The Hispanic community has 2 times the chance of being victims of Predatory Lending than low-income white families

In 1920 the African American Community owned 15.5 million acres of land. Today they only own 1.1. million acres of land.
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"U.S. borrowers lose $9.1 Billion Annually
To Predatory Lending Practices"

Source
Predatory Practice
Annual Cost
(billions)
Number of Families
Affected Annually

Equity Stripping
Financed Credit Insurance
$2.1
500,000

Exorbitant Up-Front Fees
$1.8
750,000


Sub prime Prepayment Penalties
$2.3
850,000

Rate-Risk Disparities
Excess Interest Charged
$2.9
600,000

Excessive Foreclosures
Lack Concern for Ability to Pay
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TOTAL
$9.1

Types of Predatory Lending:


Flipping or Churning

Flipping or churning occurs when a lender or broker continually refinances a consumer’s home loan without providing a benefit to the consumer for the new loan. Each time the loan is done, more and more fees are folded into the loan which strips equity from the consumer’s property. Seniors are the number one victims of this type of predatory lending practice. If you are refinancing your home, you need to know your benefit.

Exorbitant (Ridiculously High) Fees

When you refinance or buy a home there are fees associated with the transaction. These fees should be disclosed to you on a good faith estimate. The fees cover items including but not limited to title insurance, escrow, taxes, insurance, processing and loan origination fees.

A fair broker will charge a loan origination fee and a loan processing fee along with third party fees such as escrow and title. Unfair brokers and lenders charge application fees, administration fees, and excess fees that are folded into a consumer’s loan.

Brokers and lenders should get paid for their services however some abuse fees. These fees are deceptively costless to many borrowers because when the borrower “pays” them from the equity of their home, they do not feel the pain of counting out thousands of dollars in cash. The borrower parts with the money later, when the loan is paid off and the equity value of their home is reduced by the amount of fees paid to get into the loan.

Financed Credit Insurance

Loan product paid for by the borrower that repays the lender should the borrower die or become disabled. However, the total premiums for the life of the insurance policy are added to the amount of the loan.

Generally, in the single-premium credit insurance (also known as SPCI), five years worth of premiums are added directly to the loan amount. The borrower then pays interest on this amount for the life of the loan and typically has not even begun reducing the loan’s principal balance by the time the five-year credit life insurance coverage period expires. Consequently, when a borrower moves or refinances out of a Sub prime loan after five years, all of the premiums for the terminated insurance are stripped directly out of the borrower’s home equity.

If you choose to purchase this type of insurance policy get it on your own from an insurance company.


Undisclosed Prepayment Penalties

Hidden or deferred fees can strip significant equity from borrowers. Prepayment penalties are usually equal to six months of interest if the consumer refinances or sells the home before the prepayment penalty expires. If a loan carries a prepayment penalty, the consumer should be informed of the prepayment penalty before signing their loan documents. In addition, the prepayment penalty should not be longer than the rate is fixed for.

Some loans have prepayment penalties because lenders want to ensure that they make a certain amount of interest on a loan before the consumer gets out. Prepayment penalties come standard on sub prime loans or higher risk loans (FICO scores below 620). In certain situations, a program with prepay is okay if the consumer is using the loan as a bridge loan to help them fix their credit. The lenders that have standard prepayment penalties also have options to remove the prepayment penalty by taking a higher rate and/or by paying fees.

So on a $300,000 home loan that is financed at a 7% interest rate, your prepayment penalty to get out of the loan early would be approximately $10,500. If you had the same loan amount and an interest rate of 9%, your prepayment penalty would be approximately $13,500.

Prepayment penalties are usually equal to six months worth of interest if the borrower prepays at any time, for any reason, during the first three to five years of the loan. For a 10% interest rate loan, the penalty would be 5% of the loan balance. On a $150,000 loan, this fee is $7,500, more than the total net wealth built up over a lifetime for the median African American family. It’s estimated that these Sub prime prepayment penalties cost 850,000 families $2.3 billion each year.

Rate Discrepancy

Over 50% of families are paying a higher interest rate on their mortgage than they qualify for. The reason is broker and lenders make more money when they charge higher rates.

The higher your rate the more interest you pay the longer it takes for you to pay down your loan.

It is reported that over 63% of minorities who are eligible for conventional loans are placed in Sub-prime programs. Sub prime loans carry higher rates and fees, and many sub prime loans (35 to 50% according to Fannie Mae and Freddie Mac) are being made to borrowers who could have qualified for prime loans.

How to Protect Yourself from Predatory Lending?

1. Understand your credit position and position it before you buy a home
2. Put a budget together before refinancing or purchasing a home so you do not over extend yourself.
3. Ask the broker about your loan program if it is an adjustable ask them what your Margin is, Your Index and The Cap on your loan.
4. Ask for a Good Faith Estimate – this will outline your loan amount, your loan program, the costs of your loan, and your monthly payment.
5. Do not sign any blank paperwork
6. Check to see if your loan officer is licensed with the correct agency
7. Attend seminars and workshops to empower your self

The best way to protect yourself is to contact FCLS today or Apply directly online 24 hours a day. We are here to help you protect your investment.



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If it seems too good to be true-most likely it is.


These situations (most cases) can be avoided, if WE READ AND RESEARCH!


This requires patience.


If you're desperate, impatient to be a homeowner-you will become the perfect prey for predators, because you are vulnerable, and susceptible to any snakecharmer that comes along.


People, READ, AND ASK QUESTIONS....READ AND ASK MORE QUESTIONS!


You Better Recognize-Foreclosure, and homes being LEGALLY stolen are an everyday reality, for poor families, single parents, minorities, and senior citizens.


EDUCATE YOURSELVES


Ivent